Fatherhood

With Father’s Day fast approaching, it gives me cause to think and reflect on how we are doing as parents, and for me in particular, as a father. The Bible has a fair bit to say about the role of fathers. The father is a life giver (Genesis 15:2-4; Job 10:10-12; Isaiah 45:9-12), a provider (Psalm 68:5; Psalm 145:15-16; Matthew 7:9-12) and leader (Malachi 1:6; Ephesians 6:1-4).
Mark 10:42-45 provides something of a framework in which these roles played out:
“…Jesus called them together and said, "You know that those who are regarded as rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many."
(Mark 10:42 – 45)
A godly father, as he gives life, provides and leads, and does so in a way that is consistent with Jesus' words in Mark 10:42-45. A godly father is a servant – a servant of his wife and his children. He is willing to put their needs and concerns before his own.
Just as the relationship between a husband and wife is meant to reflect the relationship between Christ and the church, Christ having laid down his life for the church, so too are fathers servants of their families who should be willing to lay down their lives for them.
How does a servant father lead and provide for his family? Here are a few ways:
- He expresses his God-given authority in love
- He takes initiative
- He teaches and disciples his children
- He shows interest in his children’s education and learning
- He never leaves
- He talks and listens a lot
- He does not show favouritism
- He isn’t overcritical or inconsistent
- He spends time with his family
We can probably all think of examples of great fathers, whether they are our own or someone else we know or knew. We can probably think of examples of fathers that are not that great, whether they are the Homer Simpsons of the world or someone else we know. No one is perfect; even the best fathers will make mistakes. As fathers, we have the example of God, our heavenly Father, to imitate as we seek to understand our roles as life-giver, provider and leader.
What makes a good father? One who seeks to be a faithful, godly man. Fathers, as we understand our role, we need to strive to be faithful servants of God in all aspects of our lives. As fathers, we are to imitate God, our heavenly Father, and in doing so, we are to reflect him and point our children to him.











































